Welcome to episode 31 of the Ask Sri Vishwanath Show.  Today I want to talk about lack of confidence and lack of self-esteem and how you can overcome it.

Today’s question comes from Audra and Audra says “My main block is not feeling qualified successful and accomplished. I feel that I am stressed and it causing a lot of anxiety”

Thanks for bringing this up. Stress is a huge problem in today’s world. One thing I want to point out, and you may already be aware of this but there are a lot of things outside of us and things inside of us that we can change to help reduce our levels of stress and anxiety.

Eligibility and synchronicity

I want to begin with inside. There are few things that can be done very quickly. We can re arrange the wiring and tweak our thoughts so we can reduce our stress. In the Bhagavad Gita, Krishna says that we must know the difference between eligibility and synchronicity.

What is eligibility? Well for anything to happen we go through 3 steps: thought action and event. We feel that if we do the thinking and action right that the event will follow. We do the right work, read the right books and follow the right masters. However Krishna says we have the freedom to do the thought and action right but the event is scripted. You cannot change the event. Krishna says that for an event to happen you have to apply the right skill and the right time at the right place


An event only happens when you apply the right skill at the right place at the right time. This precision requires that script should be aligned in your favour. A human being cannot create an event. However you can work on your eligibility by upping your commitment, perseverance and discipline.

Always keep at the back of your mind that even if the thought and action are right the event will not always happen if there is no synchronicity.

Synchronicity is having the right skills in the right place at the right time. That happens when the event is scripted and if it’s not scripted then something has happened to move you away from your goal. You could be so close but for something to happen then it must be scripted.


Krishna says you cannot create a new event. This is really important. You cannot create a new event, you can only act out the event that is written for you. Think of it like an actor on a stage. Does the actor create the script? No he acts out the script that has been written for him. Similarly our events are written for us but it is up to us to act them out.

Work on it

If you are sure you can achieve your goals then keep working on your eligibility by reading books and going through the right actions. Wait for time to synchronise your event.  If you are not sure then look for signs that point to the right actions.

Don’t be disappointed if you increase your eligibility and the synchronicity doesn’t happen. The synchronicity may not happen if it is not scripted for you. However, keep increasing your eligibility and you will always be moving closer to the timeline that was scripted for you. It will happen eventually. You will bear the fruits of your labour.

Krishna also says (and this is common sense but sometimes it has to be re enforced) that before confidence comes commitment. Commitment always comes first. If you commit to something for 5 or ten years then you’re already going to be ahead of the game. You must also preserve. Keep going no matter what and allow the script to align itself in your favour.

You cannot create the event. If you are sure that you are on the right path then persevere. If not then increase your eligibility by doing the right things in the right places at the right time and it will eventually happen.


Have faith

Third and most importantly, have faith in the words of those who have already achieved their goals. Whether its spirituality or meditation follow those who have achieved the highest level of knowledge.

So, work on your commitment, persevere and have faith in those who have achieved their goals. Do this and success will be yours for the taking.

I hope I answered your question. Remember you keep asking questions and I’ll keep answering them.

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